Monday, October 11, 2010

Worst Enemy

My last post really got me thinking. Why is it that beautiful girls think they are less than that?

It seems that there are so many pretty ladies that don't realize just how attractive they really are.

It's like we tend to be able to see others clearly, but when we look at ourselves in the mirror the reflection is distorted. I can't help but wonder why that is.

We are our own worst enemies, but how did that all start?

I think a lot of it has deep roots, seeded in traumatizing childhood events.

Years of rejection and teasing have taken their toll.

I still remember clear as day when I was about 14 hearing from a 3rd party that an older guy told the boy I liked not to like me because I was ugly. Yep, just ugly. That was about 12 years ago now, and it still upsets me.

Cruel events like that leave deep scars that never fully heal.

Why people are so mean I'll never understand. I'll just chalk it up to being young and stupid. Except that some people are still mean way past their "young" years...

Either way, it's terrible that these jerks from years passed still seem to affect us somehow.

This is going to sound lame, but I really think that everyone is pretty in their own way.

Just because someone called you ugly or fat 10 years ago doesn't make you wrong. It makes them wrong.

To quote the Backstreet Boys, "What makes you different, makes you beautiful". The older I get the more I believe that is true.

I hate the way the media is constantly splashing images of these 100 lb perfect girls that we are supposed to look like in our faces. Do we really need to look like that to be considered attractive?

Thank goodness the answer is no, otherwise there would be a lot of lonely people out there!

4 comments:

Julia Everts said...

WOW!!! I love you right now. Thank you for this and for sharing your thoughts. Totally puts things into perspective.

Audrey Spence said...

It's so true... I think we were both hurt a lot growing up. One time specifically still haunts me but the cute little teddy bear you and some other people got me helps remind me that those times don't matter and I know who my true friends are. But its so hard and I know I'm hard on myself but I see the young women in my ward and just hope I can help them see how beautiful they really are. We don't all look the same and that's a good thing. Funny thing is, after watching America's Next Top Model and as cheesy as Tyra can be... she is sending a message that even the most awkward looking girl is really beautiful and I do commend her for her efforts to boost women's self esteem. If only more people jumped on that bandwagon

Jessica said...

I think I suffer from the opposite. I think I'm HOT! Maybe I think I'm hotter than I really am.....hmmm....but I dont' wanna think like that cause according to your blog I probably don't think I'm hot enough. Whew...what a relief!
Love you Liz. You're BEAUTIFUL.

SufiAzeem said...

I LOVED your writing Liz.....so fresh and captivating.I think I'm gonna follow your blog now.