tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3159777993552268415.post835015542377176658..comments2023-11-03T02:27:44.046-07:00Comments on The Road Less Traveled: Voice of ReasonLiz Cuillardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14992335776695046313noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3159777993552268415.post-4306113043974348842011-03-14T14:37:15.091-07:002011-03-14T14:37:15.091-07:00Sarah, your dad did such an awesome job with the f...Sarah, your dad did such an awesome job with the fireside for our youth! I think getting him involved made a big impact on our youth! I think they realized how serious we were about there being problems with what was going on and that the stake presidency was there to support us.Heather and Spencerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00890011633955551188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3159777993552268415.post-7220744067633922322011-03-14T13:13:49.431-07:002011-03-14T13:13:49.431-07:00By the way, I also completely agree with Audrey. I...By the way, I also completely agree with Audrey. In fact, her advice sounds better than mine!!!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09836328231409824793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3159777993552268415.post-54337158847646932782011-03-14T13:10:32.862-07:002011-03-14T13:10:32.862-07:00Liz, I completely know how you feel (as a former E...Liz, I completely know how you feel (as a former English teacher of 13 year olds). I had a class as a student teacher that made me almost cry every day. In fact, one time I had to restrain myself from running (yes running) away and out of the building forever. <br /><br /> But the epiphany you've had is spot on. Just like you, I had to learn how to THINK and ACT like I was in CHARGE! I had to practice giving instructions directly instead of asking my students to do things in an oh-so-nice almost-wishy-washy kind of way. (Instead of "Um, I think you better move." I said, "Josh, move to this desk at the front right now." Instead of, "Hey guys, we probably shouldn't talk like that", I said "Melanie! David! Those comments are totally inappropriate." And then move back to the lesson quickly.) Just remember, YOU are in charge of the lesson. And with 13 year olds you're probably going to have to cut them off and bring it back to the appropriate topic many times. But after a few weeks, they will learn. <br /><br /><br />And like Heather said, I would definitely talk to parents, leaders, bishop, etc. about this. In fact, before I read her comment I thought, "Oh my gosh! Does my dad know about this?!" He would be just as horrified as you!!!!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09836328231409824793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3159777993552268415.post-46117914278566999542011-03-13T21:28:40.101-07:002011-03-13T21:28:40.101-07:00Another thing I did one week... pulled a guilt tri...Another thing I did one week... pulled a guilt trip. Yes, I gave my 14 and 15 yr olds a guilt trip. It just happens to be my lucky year where we are learning from the New Testament. And who do we focus on the majority of the time in the NT? That would be our lovely Savior, Jesus Christ. So when the kids were starting to act up the beginning of class I said "you know you guys, I'm getting really tired of the talking. Please pay attention. If not out of respect for me at least do it out of respect for the Savior because he is who we are learning about and the least you could do is take this class time to listen and learn about him." Best part... it worked! They were so much better in class. Love it! But yeah, sticking to the topic is very helpful. If it's something that's more random I say lets save that for after class but if its a gospel related thing or close to it that has to do with what we're talking about, I'll allow it. The key is to not make them afraid of asking things only to be shut down and directed another way. It's not easy but let the spirit guide you and pray for help I'm sure you'll get the inspiration you need to do what's best for you class. It never hurts to pray for them so maybe praying for them every week too that they can be better. I know that's such a cheesy mormon answer but hey, it can work!Audrey Spencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00384997160747451120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3159777993552268415.post-35767477053923159502011-03-13T17:32:40.498-07:002011-03-13T17:32:40.498-07:00Spencer and I know all too well about the racial c...Spencer and I know all too well about the racial comments/jokes...things like that happening with our youth was getting pretty bad. If I were you, I would talk with the other leaders in YM/YW and see if they are hearing any of the same things. We ended up having Pres Sheranian come for a fireside regarding those issues and how our youth were treating each other...asking that at least one parent attend with their youth. He did a fabulous job and was pretty direct regarding the issues we were having. My guess is that if they are saying these things in your class, they are saying them other places too and it is something that needs to be addressed before it gets out of hand. Just a thought. I also don't think you should hesitate getting their parents involved. If it were my kid, I would be mortified that their teacher asked me to sit in on the class because of my kids behavior! You had better believe my kid would be better behaved in the future!<br /> Sorry you are having to deal with this, I do know how you feel! Hope things start getting better soon! Good luck with whatever you choose to do!Heather and Spencerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00890011633955551188noreply@blogger.com